A year and still feel the same.
Ia menyukai setiap detik yang ia lalui bersamanya, dan menanti detik-detik selanjutnya yang akan mereka lalui bersama
Ia menyukai bagaimana ia tak sungkan mengekspresikan perasaannya padanya, hingga ia tahu sedikit banyak isi hatinya
Ia menyukai hal-hal kecil namun berarti yang ia lakukan, seperti tidak pernah menyingkat kata “sayang” menjadi “syg” ketika mengatakannya lewat sms
Ia menyukai bagaimana ia memilih untuk memintanya menjadi kekasihnya secara langsung, tidak lewat sms atau telepon, tanpa harus ia minta, sehingga ia dapat menatap langsung ke matanya saat ia mengucapkannya
Ia menyukai bagaimana namanya terdengar sangat indah ketika ia memanggilnya
Ia menyukai perasaan aman dan nyaman saat ia berada di sisinya
Ia menyukai setiap sentuhannya, bagaimana ia menggenggam tangannya, bagaimana ia memeluknya hangat. Bahkan hatinya berdesir saat ia menjitak, menyubit, dan mengacak-acak rambutnya
Ia menyukai bagaimana mendengar suaranya membuatnya tenang
Ia menemukan dirinya tak bisa berfungsi normal atau berpikir jernih bila tak mendengar kabar darinya. Ia bahkan lupa bagaimana cara ia melewati hari-hari sebelum ada dia di sisinya
Ia masih lebih penting dan lebih dibutuhkan dari makan 3 kali sehari, masih lebih manjur dalam menghilangkan penat daripada tidur siang. Sosoknya muncul di kepalanya sesering oksigen masuk ke paru-parunya. Ia adalah kebiasaan barunya. Rutinitasnya.
How to stop tears that can’t stop rolling?
Is it the memories of us,
The ones I can’t stop from playing in my head,
The memory of us had fun,
Is it the promises we made,
And the plans,
Of what kind of house we’d like to have,
Or what would be the names of our kids,
Of our plan to go on a trip just the two of us
Are those the key to stop the tears that can’t stop rolling?
How to stop the tears that can’t stop rolling,
When I still want to hold your hand
When I still want to lean my head on your shoulder
And when I still want to say I love you a million more
How to stop the tears that can’t stop rolling
When I still love you a little bit more every day
As students, we often heard our professors or teachers say, “If you want to get good grades, you have to master the subject,” or our parents say, “You have to study hard in order to get good grades.” Have we ever contemplated those advises and wondered, why is grades are more valuable than the knowledge itself? We know that the purpose of learning is to increase our knowledge, and grades are needed as the tools to measure the learning progress. However, with students these days tend to care more about their grades instead on how much knowledge they can get, is it still safe to maintain this kind of academic system?
Students view their grades as a determination whether they are going to success or not. This point of view comes because parents often appreciate their kids more when they have excellent grades, by giving them presents, or boasting their grades in much enthusiasm to the neighbors or relatives. Meanwhile, when the kids have lower grades, the parents usually show them disappointment by staring the kids with “what’s wrong with you?” look, instead of giving them encouragement. This also happens in class. Students with lower grades tend to be labeled stupid by their friends and even their teachers, and this cause them to have low self-esteem.
The effect to this mindset is students will lose their desire to learn, and they will focus too much on how they can get good grades: some by studying harder, and others by cheating. The first option seems to be fine, since by studying they are doing the process of learning. However, studying with the purpose of good grades cause the students to quickly forget what they learned (usually occurs right after exam), therefore they will not be able to apply what they learned to everyday life. This happens because they acknowledge that the accomplishment of exam’s results are more valuable than the accomplishment of being able to apply the lessons to the real life.
What so disturbing is that this value-more-on-grades system doesn’t only occur in elementary, middle, or high schools, but it also continues in college. College is a more advance step of learning. In the college, students are trained to be prepared to face the real world, in which grades shouldn’t matter anymore. What matters is the capability to manage challenge, to solve problems, and more importantly, to apply the lessons the students have gotten in college. Professors should encourage their students to learn passionately in order to master those capabilities. However, students find some professors only lecturing for the sake of exams, since they often heard the professors saying, “usually this type of question will come out in exams”, or “don’t forget to study for exams.”
Is it still safe to maintain this kind of academic system? No. Grades don’t always determine how well students learned, it mostly only determines how well they did their exams. Grades shouldn’t be the main tools to measure the development and improvement students did in learning, there should be another way that not only can measure both development and improvement, but also trigger them to be interested in learning. Deleting the grading system might be one of the ways to make students more interested to explore what they’re learning. However, would it really solve the problem?